19 April 2012

what do you do all day?


Now that things are coming together (read-I am not worried that I am going crazy, phewf) I can look at this question more fairly. Ada is finally having longer naps in the daytime, waking up happier and ready to play.  

 For about a month Ada would wake after one baby sleep cycle of 40-45 minutes and it was a bit torturous. I would check she was asleep and start something and be almost done when she woke up. Sometimes I would try and get her back to sleep, see here (also torturous), many times I would bundle her into the pram for another walk, sometimes I would pick her up and keep going with what I was doing. A few times that meant holding her while continuing cooking. Now that she is able to hold herself up and reach for everything her watching me cook is kind of fun. A month ago this meant holding her face down along one arm and narrating what I was doing, all the while she is basically looking at the floor and I am trying not to put her face near the oven! Literally up until a week or so ago ‘what I did all day’ was care for Ada and entertain Ada and feed Ada and help Ada to sleep. Honestly. All day. Days when she was happy went by fast and were fun. Days when she was cranky were slow and I *waited* for Cam to get home so he could entertain her too.

So as I was saying she is sleeping longer in the day! Hoorah! I do have some time to myself. The ‘what do you do all day’ question is not as offensive! We do stuff. Meet friends, go to the library or go shopping, read books on the floor, sing songs, do some baby exercise training. Today she is sleeping and I am writing this. Yesterday I cleaned the house and went to the supermarket. I do a lot of washing. It is all very domestic but very satisfying too. I still care for Ada all day but I now have a whole hour to myself. It feels quite luxurious and I have little projects in mind so that I can feel productive. But I shouldn’t feel the need to validate my time, this season is so short, work looms around the corner and she is changing all the time. There is no need to rush.


16 April 2012

she makes you work for it


Ada is not yet in the awesome laugh laugh laugh stage. The same thing doesn’t seem to work two days in a row. She smiles a bunch and you can get a whiny sounding ha, peek-a-boo and tickling is slowly becoming funny. This is her in giggle mode at 4.5 months, Cam has patented the trailing finger giggle inducer.


01 April 2012

what's for lunch?


Did I mention already how big an appetite you get while feeding an infant? You get hungry! Plus I already loved to eat so I am now a snack machine! Protein people, it is all about protein. Protein and accessibility. In the first few weeks you sometimes can only eat what you can grab and get into your mouth with one hand. I had a fruit smoothie in the fridge that I would slurp out of the bottle and some scroggin next to the chair where I would feed Ada.
Where is the food?

Here are 5 ready-to-eat new Mum lunch ideas that you can make in advance and have for a few days in a row.

1. Moroccan Chickpea and Carrot Salad. 
10 minutes

This recipe makes about 5-6 serves and is adapted from Ripe Cafés cookbook. Thanks.

You will need:
2 tins of chickpeas, drained
1 large grated carrot
1 cup green beans
Small handful sultanas
A few dates chopped small
½ c flat leaf parsley (could substitute half of this for coriander)

Dressing:
1T lemon juice
1T sweet thai chili sauce
1T mayo or aioli
1t cumin
1t tumeric
salt and pepper to taste
half a clove of garlic grated/chopped very finely (optional, raw garlic and Ada did not mix. Owie.)

Combine salad ingredients, mix dressing ingredients, combine it all!

2. Anything Rice Bowl
5 minutes

Make too much brown rice (or white, if you must). Add cooked frozen corn, chopped red pepper, green onions, a boiled egg, julienned carrot… you get the idea, anything. Add hoisin, soy or hot sauce. This tastes best if the rice is heated first, everything else can be thrown in cold, the brown rice just needs a bit of salt and your taste buds will come around. This fast snack can keep you going for ages. It is worth noting a few boiled eggs ready to eat in the fridge can go a long way… Mayonegg anyone?

3. Vietnamese Chicken Salad
20 minutes

I came home from Canada with this recipe in my bag, ripped out of a copy of Madison magazine, it is a bit like a summer roll without the prawns and rice paper shell and mucking about making them. I think this will keep for about 3 days in the fridge and this recipe makes 4 servings approximately. This recipe is a little bit longer so you may want to have it for dinner and leftovers for lunch. It really only takes as long to make as the chicken takes to cook.

You will need:
1 large chicken breast
1 carrot
1/3 cucumber
handful mint leaves
handful basil leaves
fish sauce
brown sugar
lemon
vinegar
chili

First poach a chicken breast with coriander and basil stalks or some grated ginger. You bring a small pan of water to the boil, add the chicken, boil for 30 seconds, take it off the heat and leave it for 12-15 to finish cooking.

While that is happening shred about 2 cups of cabbage (say a ¼ of a medium cabbage), grate a carrot, julienne 1/3 of a cucumber (however it is more authentic to substitute 1/2c mung beans), chop ¼ cup of mint and basil leaves. I also prepare a third of a packet of vermicelli because carbs are awesome and the noodles hold the dressing. To prepare those you pour boiling water over the noodles and leave to sit, then drain before adding to the salad.

When the chicken is cooked it will be moist but able to be pulled apart into shreds with two forks. Practice makes perfect here, don’t be too fussy for tiny shreds if you haven’t used this technique before.  Or maybe shredding is only new to me!

The Nuoc tham dressing then makes this taste awesome!
Mix: 1T fish sauce, 1T brown sugar, 1T lime/lemon juice, 2t cider vinegar and a chopped chili if you like it hot.

Lastly you can throw on some toasted peanuts or pumpkin seeds for crunch.

4. Tuna Salad on Vogels
5 minutes

Not too difficult a recipe! Mix a drained tin of tuna chunks with some lite mayo, chopped gherkins or capers, salt and pepper, maybe some hot sauce. Pile high on some seedy nutty whole grain toast. In North America this would be then topped with cheese and placed under the broiler. Ha, that is their word for grill. A grill to them is only ever a BBQ. You say tomato, I say tomaytoe etc..

5. Bircher Muesli
5 minutes
Basic plus - food photography is on my 'to learn' list, hmm

Did you know oats are a mood regulator? In the first few weeks after Ada was born I was keen for some of that. Fish oil and oats. Seperately. This is obviously not a lunch but who is fussy when they are working around the clock for a little task master. This recipe makes two serves and can be varied a lot. If you like muesli but not porridge you should still try this as it is not gluey or stodgy as porridge can be. Rolled oats work best but you could try die cut oats, quick oats were not good.

Basic – mix half a cup of water, 1 cup of oats and half an apple grated and leave overnight.
Basic plus – as above but with 4 chopped prunes or dates, serve with yogurt and almonds or walnuts.
Fancy – same as basic but soak in orange juice or (soy) milk or yogurt and add frozen berries

The variety is near endless.

26 March 2012

happy 4 months lil lady!


In baby circles they talk about the first three months being the 4th trimester, your little newborn isn’t really ready for the world but is too big to stay in your tummy any longer. So 3 months is an expected turning point for babies’ behaviour and needs. Ah it doesn’t happen over night but it does happen. Ada is such fun! Things are coming together! I was saying a few weeks back that I felt like a slow starter but I am feeling so much more confident. Ada and I may even board a plane, without Cam, to visit Wellington, shock! 
We went to a wedding!
We had a holiday!
I like sitting up!

things I wish I had known


I think I took a fair amount in my stride after Ada was born. I was tired, had lost some blood and inevitably sore. I do wish I had known how long it may take for me to heal. It was 6 weeks before I stopped taking pain relief everyday.
I thought I had been told but I didn’t really realise that breastfeeding is work, exhausting work. You need to eat enough, drink enough, sleep enough and stick with it. Ada took a long time to feed and fell asleep a lot because she was hot and feeding was taking so long. I was feeding her 7-8 times a day and each feed was taking over an hour. Feeding alone was a full time job spread over 24 hours.
I hadn’t heard about cluster feeding. Babies like to feed continuously sometimes. Rather than eating every three hours, they feed for something like for 3 – 6 hours straight. Ada cluster fed her first night, I was in the hospital and a bit beside myself wanting to sleep. The nurse propped the two of us up on our sides and I dozed while Ada fed all through the night. This happened again on the second night at the birth unit. It was the possibility of needing to feed all night that scared me about going home, I thought it may be easier to do that at the maternity unit with help. The less than friendly night staff meant I wanted to go home anyway. On her third night Ada slept in her wee bassinet next to us not needing feeding all night and nights have been OK since then.
Now feeding is easy and fun and she grins cheeky grins up at me mid way through. Not in public darling.

What things surprised other parents in the first weeks?